Do you know that moment you put your key in a lock and you hear that distinct, "click"?
My conversation with "J", another entrepreneur and woman who's always shakin' and bakin'- was exactly like that.
Having read an article about her and her business in The Dallas Morning News; I was excited to share with "J" how impressed I was with the business, typically a very male oriented business, that she had successfully availed herself.
"Now you and I know both know it's not as if I had 1.5 million dollars just sitting around to by BlahBlah (her business) with", "J" remarked.
"Of course not. You did a deal. I get ya."
"Yes. Right. Sure did."
"So, let me ask you- how do you get along with other women?", I ventured.
"Yeah. Me too. I don't know. I don't get it. Just last week "A" told me that other women are intimidated by me. I'm nice. I'm gracious. I don't get it."
"Of course they don't like you. You have something going on! People don't like that", J shot back.
"Well, I don't think I'm better than they are." I said.
"No. See? You are better. You think bigger. Look- I don't mean to be rude but ("J" looks around the bus cautiously as we are on our way to a luncheon at the new Cowboy Stadium) but you know, the Chamber; some people there, I mean they're selling Juice Plus. Know what I mean?"
If you have something going on- man, I'm just the opposite~ Entrepreneur Chick wants to hear all about it and so does "J".
Last week I was at a business function and a woman timidly approached me.
"Uh... I just wanted to come over and say 'hi'. I don't know if you remember me. I just wanted to say 'hi' and talk to you if you have the time." She was shaking a little bit. At this point I thought, either she's very shy or... what? You are intimidated by me?! Good grief, what for?!
A few people have mistaken me being a southern woman who's basically warm and kind, as being a weakness. Yet they have quickly found out I can turn on you as quick as a Pit Bull being dragged by the ears if you think you're going to play me like that.
Sometimes I want to say to other women, "Listen. I don't want your man, okay? Can we move on now?" It's the whole undercurrent of cattiness that totally turns me cold with this type of broad, and believe me, the world is chalked full of them.
So, if they don't like me because I have "something going on"- at least I am being authentic. What else can you be but be yourself? I'm always going to have a multiplicity of irons in the fire. Other people with a bunch of irons in their fire will get me, and those that don't, ...don't.
So be it.