Monday, November 9, 2009

Hell Hath no Fury- Don't I know it!

For our English homeys, your dawg, William Congreve, was a playwright and poet. (1670-1729).

Obviously this guy was married to an entrepreneur chick. This is how I know. Often misquoted as, "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned", actually the verbiage was:

"Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned, nor hell a fury like a woman scorned." (Spoken by Zara in Act. 3, scene 2 "The Mourning Bride".)

Any way you word it, women can get really pissed off!

I'm going to confess to you now, that this is my biggest weakness. And, ironically, this is my biggest strength.

While being short staffed or other business related inconvenient irritants does not exactly qualify me as being "scorned', it does irritate the living daylights out of me. I get extremely angry when things do not go right in my companies.

After I calm down a little bit I realize though- okay. Deep breath. What do I need to do to fix the problem? After a few beers, or a some nice Cabernet, I set a plan in motion to that end.

It would be nice, however, if I could merely recognize the problem, not get my thong in a wad, and then set about, calmly, sensibly, rationally, to fix it.

But I prefer doing a little ritual that my Dad always referred to fondly as: "Going ape shit."

After I would go "ape shit", he'd like to say, reflectively, "Well, Lisa- you brought it all on yourself."

But why is anger my biggest strength? Because I can't accept a status quo life for myself- which makes me a little miffed, knowing I can do better- so I do.

But pass the sack of ape food- I'm going to need it for later.


  1. Marilisa, sometimes it just feel so good to rant and rave and scream, even if or, especially if, we don't have an audience. Whatever it is that apes eat this days, buy yourself the most gourmet brand and enjoy!

  2. Around here it's referred to as Freeking Out. It happens on occasion. I stomp, I scream, I kick things, I say WTF!!!! many many times. Afterward I feel better, have a chance to calm down and think about the situation and then a plan is devised and implemented.
    Sometimes you just gotta let go and let the recycled bananas fly.

  3. At my house, we call these meltdowns. And what my dad always used to say was "Pipe down!"

    I used to be a total rage-aholic. I'm somewhat reformed now, but I still have occasional meltdowns. (Like the one I mentioned to you regarding my daughter's dinner party, for instance.)

    Thanks for being honest about this and reminding me that a) anger can be a strength, and b) I'm not the only one.

    By the way, I love the pic of you and your honey.

  4. We've always termed it "flipping your lid." Doesn't happen to me often. I'm one of those steam-engine types who's slow to anger (but whose anger comes viciously and copiously when finally worked up).

    Sometimes it's healthier to get it all out rather than hold it in. Just as long as no one's holding a video camera. By the way, you're one-half of a very cute couple.

  5. RNSANE,

    I'm on that like a fat kid on a cupcake!

  6. Becky,

    LOL, recycled bananas. Which reminds me- I've got to put some of those on my grocery list.

    Might come in handy.

  7. Polly,

    You're welcome about the honesty, as it is hard for me to admit that I could do a whole lot better- and also, glad you like the picture of Tony and I.

    We were at this fundraiser called "Feista" for the Chamber. My baby's on the Board of Directors, & I'm way proud of him.

  8. Postman,

    You are so right that it's more healthy to get it out- you know the rap song though, "Act A Fool"? That's so me. Geez, Louise.

    Thank you for the compliment. You're pretty cute yourself over there. ;)

  9. I'll have to look that song up.

    You're welcome. And thank you. [Insert blushing cheeks here]

  10. Postman,

    S'okay. "Act a Fool"- Ludacris.

  11. We really ARE so alike! I'm the same way, I have myself a nice little freak out, get all that chaotic energy out of me, then I settle down and get shit DONE.

    I knew there was a reason I loved ya! ;)

  12. Chloe,

    I think we have the same mother... heh, heh.

    I just hope we don't- "go ape shit", "flip your lid", "have a meltdown" and have a "nice little freak out" when we are together.

    If we do, we'll draw straws as to who has to take a walk and get the other a beer.

    Since you don't like beer, I vote for you to go and let's skip the straws. What do you say?

  13. I won't be able to get the beers, I'll be slurring from the Xanax by then!!! ;)